motherhood · special needs

Unexpected Life

We live around a small, kayak filled lake in Wilmington, NC. The riverwalk downtown has been recently named the #1 riverwalk community in the country. Within 20 minutes I could drive to my choice of 2 different beaches with several more options within the hour. We have quite a few very nice parks complete with walking trails, picnic areas, dog parks, sports courts, bike trails, etc. Wilmington is a town surrounded by water and built for outdoor activities. The lifestyle here is a bit more laid back than that of Charlotte, where we moved from almost 3 years ago. We absolutely love it here! 

We love to ride our bikes around the lake with our dog running beside us. We’ve gone paddle boating and kayaking in the lake. We go to the beach frequently, sometimes just for a quick visit in the evenings after dinner. We explore the parks and our dog, Tux, loves the dog parks. This week we’ve been attending the Wells Fargo Golf Championship. There is always something going on here! 

Now that we have a special needs child, many of the things we like to do or we’re looking forward to doing will likely change and become more difficult. At 10months old, he still can’t go on bike rides wth is because of his abnormally small head. They don’t make helmets small enough for him. We had so many plans and big dreams for our baby boy and now we look to the future with a bit more uncertainty than we had previously. We don’t yet know what limitations or challenges he may have. However, we want to do our very best to allow him to be as normal as possible and not to miss out on adventure just because it’s harder or takes more preparation. He already loves being outside and we are excited to see how he will continue to overcome obstacles to do what he loves!  This is our unexpected new lifestyle

We all have to adapt to change in our life. The beach is beautiful and peaceful to me, but I’ve noticed that if you stand in the sand where the waves can reach up to cover your feet, you’ll begin to sink as the water moves the ground underneath you. You have to keep moving as the waves come in, otherwise you sink deeper into the sand and you will eventually become stuck. Life is like that. When trouble comes, you can’t stand still and let it pull you down, you have to keep moving.

Now, we are learning to dream up new, even brighter dreams for him. His story has already reached so many people and brought them together in prayer. We trust that God has an awesome plan for him and we know his impact will only grow as he does. He may be small, but he’ll do big things! Maybe he’ll be a golfer or a surfer or an artist? It’s easy to focus on the negative possibilities and get trapped under mounds or worry. But Little J is working hard everyday to push past his brain injury to learn so we must work hard everyday to fix our eyes on the positive possibilities and on all that Jesus will do through his life. 

We will dream of a new, fantastic lifestyle for you, J, and we’ll do whatever we can to make your dreams come true! 

“May he grant your heart’s desires and make all your plans succeed. May we shout for joy when we hear of your victory and raise a victory banner in the name of our God. May the Lord answer all your prayers.” ‭‭Psalms‬ ‭20:4-5‬ ‭NLT‬‬


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